Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Mommy Me

"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.
She never existed before.
The woman existed, but the mother, never.
A mother is something absolutely new."

I came across this line while browsing the web looking for fun outdoor activities for me to do with Nia. Somehow I have never thought of becoming a mommy as what the statement mentioned. For us, when a new baby is born, the attention will always be on the bundle of joy. Not realizing that the new mommy would also needs all the emotional and psychological support at that moment. We tend to forget, that being a mommy is also something alien to the lady of the house. I actually felt the same way when I first had Nia. The first 1 month was quite a challenge. I was still in pain due to the C-Section. Husband was working night shift. Nia wakes up regularly at night and sleeps all thru the day. My milk supply was very little which made Nia cranky for lack of milk and in return made me feel really sore after all the biting and struggles to feed her. There were times that I actually cried in the toilet feeling very much hopeless and not knowing what I really needs to do - rasa alone to the max laaa time sedih2 macam ni. Always wanting to be the perfect mom, and feeling that the expectation is so great from everyone. And listening to stories from other new mommies who seems to be coping splendidly well with their own babies - sangat depressing OK.

Somehow, I felt this was one of the reason that affected my willpower to keep on breastfeeding Nia. Feeling depressed and as though I am doing everything wrong at that time. Tapi, over time, as I get used to this new mummy-role, things started to get easier. I can juggle doing many things at one go. And I am no longer upset even if I don't get enough sleep and rest. I think watching Nia's milestones and knowing that I always have a special place in her heart, made me stronger. Lebih-lebihi lagi if I know that she would choose me over anything or anyone else when she needs comforting - now that is truly remarkable. You just know that you have this special bond with your baby that even your spouse would not understand.

I guess other moms might feel the same way as I did, cuma maybe no one wants to bring it up. All I can say is, being a first time mummy is definitely not easy. It takes a lot of patience, morale support and preseverance. But at the end of the day, everyone will pass thru it. The key thing to remember is, just do it your own way the way you deem right, they way you see is best for you and your child. Mommies are defintiely a superwoman. It's not an easy job to manage babies, your home, your husband, your career, your life, etc. But in good faith, if I were offered a chance to be a full-time mommy, I wouldn't hesitate to say YES as soon as I can.

To all mommies out there, just remember that we are all SPECIAL especially to our babies! Hail MOMMIES!


anas said...

1st time tgk Adam,rs cam xpecaya dh ada anak. Rase besar tangjungjawab nk didik and besarkan dia.

1st time kene bangun malam breastfeed kan dia rase sangat stress,tido tak cukup.

Now,Alhamdulillah dah boleh handle semua.Dah 6 bulan si bulat tu,kejap je mase cm br smlm je masuk labor room ;)

mrs Fahmi said...

tu ar kan...sangat....awal2 dulu macam depressed giler....rasa mcm buat sume benda pon pon duk nangis manjang....not sure apesal dia nangis...nak susu ke....change diaper ke...ahah....

now sume dah terer....can understand the mood pon....