What Is Your Love Based On?

Your Love is Based on Friendship

For you, chemistry doesn't really happen without compatibility. Companionship and openness are the most important parts of your relationships. Whoever you love should be your best friend. And falling in love with a good friend is never out of the question. Why your love can last: You only fall for people who you truly understand... and who truly understand you Why your love can fail: Sometimes you don't admit how important physical chemistry is to you

What Is Your Love Based On?

Our miracle at 31 weeks weighing approximately 1.5kg

we had this taken today....ehehe....so, biasa laa....a wee bit jakuns...

looks like she's going to cry....she was sleeping and the doctor had to shake mommy's tummy so that mommy and daddy get to see her face...

nose pressing at the umbilical cord & placenta

the tiny fingers

Bye-Bye 2008, Hello 2009!

Happy new year everyone!!!

As usual, we didn't do anything for new year's celebration this year. Both of had to work on new year's eve and balik from the office pon it was already 10.30pm....pergi uptown, grab something for dinner...and we drove back towards The Curve and waited by the roadside to see the fireworks....it was spectacular - macam previous year oso - and we managed to see 3 different displays of fireworks....from The Cruve, One Utama and Damansara Perdana....sume playing at the same time and visible from the roadside where we parked....right after the show abes, Fahmi straight away ushered me back to the car in his so-called attempt to try and beat the massive traffic...but somehow or rather, we were still caught in the jam tapi not so bad la...jam pon because the police dah start buat roadblock nak saman those people who are not wearing seatbelts ...

anyhow...some highlights of 2008

2008 started slowly & painfully for me...that time dgn problem yg dunno what the ending is going to be...hehe...but alhamdulillah, I prevail!! (woohoo!...a big pat on the back for me)

then it progresses slowly, still bumpy in the first quarter....

June came and I got married to my beloved soulmate....kihkihkih....with all the pink pelamin and pink hantaran just like what i wanted....

July was our honeymonn period....hahaha....we went to Netherlands and Paris...not knowing that I had already conceived a baby by then...=p

August was super sad....arwah Abah passed away....our 'postponed' wedding reception pon jadi less meriah....I had no mood to celebrate...plus nikah pon da 2 months...

September, balik kampung in laws for the first time....there were some drama - but it went pretty well...thank God...

October, raya puasa....balik Ganu ...still no mood to celebrate since Abah dah takde

November, back to KL....super busy with work....

December, my baby bump is super prominent now....back ache is my best friend...as well as sleeping whilst sitting down...LOL

So...hopefully 2009 will be a much better year for our little-expanding family...there are many things for us to look forward to...

Hubby's office is moving to Cyberjaya somewhere in mid Jan...

I'll be getting my own office laptop - so no need to stayback at the office now that I can work from home...

Our little miracle will be arriving soon in March - I hope she will make her arrival known in style....;-)

Am planning to take the 3rd month maternity off to layan the budak kecik upon her arrival

We've started scouting for a new place....now there might be some changes made to the original plan....instead of renting a place for ourselves, we are quite interested to get a place of our own...went to Denai Alam the other day...pretty convenient and its located in the center between Cyberjaya and KL for the both of us to go to work....so, we're working hard on that 10% deposit money...:p

Weddings to look forward to in 2009: Nas + Ana, Sarah + Ilyas, Mya + Harith, Kiyai + Didie, Farhan + GF, Prem + Ruben, Nurul & Jalil (hehe....Maybe....)

More babybumps this year I believe...hopefully Kak Lin...since she's dying to give a lil sister to Fawwaz... (,")

Roughly that's about it....so, goodbye 2008 and hello 2009....I hope it will be a superb year for all of us....muwahsssss!

15 reasons to be glad that I am pregnant

1. Relishing the early weeks when only me and hubby knows that "We" are pregnant! ^_^


2. Knowing that I actually have exactly 9 months to fantisize & plan and dream...


3. Being pregnant is always the perfect excuse to be pampered...


4. Looking forward to your 2+1 months of maternity leave...eheheh


5. Not having to feel guilty that I am getting heavier


6. And of course, its bigger boobs and..hey....i now have a bum to look at....LOL


7. People giving ways to me at malls and when i queue up at the atm machines...


8. I'm getting a lot of attention from everyone


9. Feeling the kicks for the first time


10. Being able to talk and converse with my tummy as if I'm talking to another person


11. Our 'small-family' bonding time at every night before dozing off - just mommy, daddy and baby


12. Closer relationship with hubby


13. Feeling a little pair of heels prodding under at my diaphragm and knowing that soon I'll be meeting the little person they belong to!


14. Choosing baby clothes and planning what I'm going to buy.


15. Getting hubby to take photos of me smiling over my enormous bump so that, one day, I can look back and be amazed I was ever that size...hehee

and who says being pregnant is easy?

i have reached my 20th/21st week of pregnancy and i am:

1. having a really bad case of rashes on my right arm
2. having a really bad constipation if i don't take any bananas/papayas/prunes in a day
3. starting to have backache especially on my left side
4. eating everything that i can put my hands on
5. and that will result in me having heartburns afterwards
6. short of breath after a climb up the stairs
7. awake 3 times every night to go to the loo
8. getting less emotional/sensitive
9. tires easily
10. with a huge expanding belly!!!!

but, i am/have also:

1. felt my first quickening - a few weeks ago
2. proud of my tummy
3. looking forward to every check up with the gyne to see the baby during the scanning session
4. eating more healthily
5. more contious of my behaviour
6. having a closer bond with hubby during our 'talk-to-the-baby' sessions
7. have a new habit - rubbing the belly
8. excited to start buying baby stuff
9. starting to look for suitable baby names
10. trying to see the both of us as parents for our little one

KL - KT - KL - Ipoh - KL

been awhile since my last update...super busy at work and at home...alhamdulillah, Eid came and go...we had a good first Eid together as husband & wife...as planned, we went back to Terengganu to celebrate with Tok & Ki since Abah baru je passed away...nonetheless, we did planned to go back to Batu Pahat on the 2nd day of Eid, tapi tak jadi plak since the in laws came down to KL utk visit Aunties kat sini...so Alhamdulillah, that cut our journey short; instead of having to travel back from Trg - Johor, we only have to travel from Trg back to KL...

another death took place during Raya..(somehow I always feel that death comes in a pair of 3 - but this is just my silly supersition...:p)...Kak Lin's father in law (dearly known as Tok Wan amongst us) has passed away on the 13th day of Eid...somehow, he collapsed on the second day of raya that lead to a bypass operation the next day...the operation went well but somehow or rather, the Almighty loved him more than us, He then took Tok Wan back just a few days after he was discharged from the hospital...ironically it happened in front of Fawwaz, who was playing with his Tok Wan at that time...kesian Awasy, lost both his grandfather (Aki & Tok Wan) within the same year and just 2 months apart...Al Fatihah...

On a happier note, things are going rather smoothly between us and the families in Batu Pahat...Alhamdilillah, there has been no further drama cerekerama or tele-novela that happened during raya or after...but I do foresee future issues that might be arising in light of my little one popping out next year...*sigh*...but let's just take it one step at a time...I'll start to worry about it later on...anyhow, will be having my next check up with the gyne next Saturday...very excited about it...more excited to see how much the baby has developed since our last checkup last month...I believe I can now feel him kicking...we have yet to know the sex of the baby....but somehow i think it's a boy, though hubby is really hoping for a girl..hehe...tak kisah la...as long as my precious tumble tot is healthy and happy...

we've been scouting for a stroller these past 2 weeks....hubby really wants to get a Quinny stroller which I think is really expensive but doesn't have enough compartments for us to store the tumble tot's stuff later on...

Quinny Zap & Maxi Cosy Travel System

we have yet to decide on it, but I'll keep an eye for mcLaren, pegPreggo and Graco as well...whichever that can offer us the best package with value for money...ini long term investment jugak for the babies to come...LOL

Graco Aerosport Deluxe

And yes...a few other good news on my girlfriends have also come my way...

Maya is to be dirisik during Raya Haji by Harith's family and Insya Allah will tie the knot by end of 2009.

Sarah is to be dirisik and engaged to Ilyas a week after Raya Haji and will tie knot in July 2009.

Ida & Zol has finally moved to her own place in Denai Alam.

Alif's work has been recognized and he's travelling to Hong Kong for business trip next week.

Mieko and Fakri have also moved to their own place in Denai Alam with their cutie pies and are planning for a small hse warming get together Insya Allah sometime next month.

JJ is still JJ (,"). Zila has started her new job at VADS, TTDI.

Nadya - last I heard, she's still working hard at UOB to fit in the title "Career Woman of the Year"...hehehe...

Prem has done her second follow-up surgery at HKL and is recuperating and will be back in the office next Tuesday.

Ash and Mizi are getting more and more excited day by day waiting for their daughter's birth in December.

Nurul is still working hard to convince her parents about her wedding plans with Jalil.

Teh will be off to Japan for her much awaited holiday in December.

Ummi and Lukman are on the look-out to get a place of their own.

As for me and hubby, we're thankful for all the wonderful things that have happened to us these past few months. Very much excited waiting for the arrival of our own little one next year. Blissfully happy with our marriage. And extremely grateful to have the love and support of our much beloved friends and families.

XOXO

19 Ramadhan

how time flies....believe it or not, today is already the 19th day of Ramadhan...another 11 days to fast and only 7 days left before I can go on Raya leave....yippie yay!!

for our first raya together, we are planning to go back to Terengganu to visit my grandparents...i suppose this time around agak meriah since we have all my brothers and sister going back as well but then we no longer have Abah with us...if not, dia laa yg paling busy nak make sure that the accomodations are all well arranged in advance...

raya leave apart, tonight we'll be going back to Batu Pahat together for the first time...feelings? nervous + scared + anxious...nervous for Fahmi, scared and anxious to be meeting people who hates me although I still have no clue why...for Fahmi's sake, hari² each solat, I pray to God that everything will turns out fine...I know how much this will mean to him...so, harap sangat-sangat yg we will not have any drama this time and tak dihalau balik ke ape...hehe...

for him, I will try my best to be this superwoman yg akan tahan kalis although kena bombard with bullets and atomic bomb....hihihi....though i must say, i would rather have a cut on my hand rather than kena perli or anything....how words can slice into a person's heart, only some will know...

so for what is worth, wish me luck...to meet up with my MIL & FIL...and all the RILs...roger & out

p/s: btw, somehow i think i felt as if the baby is moving this week...but i'm not quite sure if its really the baby or my stomache grumbling...hehehe...have yet to tell Fahmi, since he has so many things on his mind right now...mommy & baby's secret, alone, for now...;-)

Ramadhan - Penghulu Segala Bulan

"Hai manusia! Telah datang kepada kamu satu bulan yang mulia, bulan rahmat... dimana bulan ini mewajibkan kamu berpuasa di siang hari dan sukarela bersolat pada malamnya. Barangsiapa yang mendekati Allah dengan melakukan segala amalan sunat di bulan ini akan menerima ganjaran seperti melakukan amalan wajib di lain hari. Ini merupakan bulan kesabaran dan kesabaran itu imbuhannya syurga. Ini juga bulan sedekah dan bulan dimana rezeki orang beriman bertambah..."
(Diriwayatkan Ibn Khuzaymah).

Selamat menjalankan ibadah berpuasa to all my friends. Semoga Ramadhan kali ini membawa lebih keinsafan, keredhaan dan barakah daripada Allah swt. Insya Allah.

Living Your Life

A sudden turn of events have changed my family's perspective of life in the past couple of weeks. Upon reflection, I realized that life is too precious to be mulled and sulked over. Life and death is natural. It comes and goes and it will touch everyone in their journey in this world.

My beloved father has passed away on August 9, 2008. In my heart, I would like to say that he has been invited back by the Almighty and not that he had left us behind. He was not only a father figure, but he was a mentor to me. Always teaching me the meaning of being patience and how I must always think of the best of everybody in this world regardless of what people might do towards me, be it good or bad. I had always hoped that I had lived to his expectations. Not only with having good grades in school, but also to be a good daughter and a good muslimah - which is what he wanted the most. Insya Allah, all the things that he had always preached to us, the 5 brothers & sisters, are kept close to our hearts.

I believe Abah would have been proud if he could only see how his children had handled his passing away. Yes all the 5 of us had our sad moments. But we huddled, scruffled and we rise above it. Mama needed us the most and I am proud to say that she received all the support that she can get from her children as well as her son/daugher in laws.

We arranged for the jenazah ourselves. We were there during his last moments. We taught him how to mengucap. We held his hand during his final breath. We wiped his brows when the angels were pulling him away from his jasad. And we closed his eyes after the last breath was out of his mouth. We covered Abah in white. We rubbed oil to his muscle-joints so that they will not be stiff. We carried him to the mosque in preparation for the burial. We bathe him ourselves as one of his last rights. And alhamdulillah, we had many people who came to the mosque for the solat jenazah. I would say, arwah would have been happy with all of this. And our family is very much thankful for those who had came forward to lend us support and their helping hands - and yes not to forget all those condolences.

Life is very much fragile I would say. I've received my shocking eye opener now realizing that we, mortals, can be taken away by God anytime He wishes to. Not a second too early nor too late. When our time is up, the angels are there to bring us up. Just like what has been said in the Quran, our fate is written on our 'leaves' up in the heaven even before we are born. How we will fare in this world, and when we will die and of course how we will die.

With this reminder, I hope that when my time comes, when I'm invited back by the angel of death, I would have enough supply of all the good deeds that I had done in this world. I hope that all my sins will be washed away during my final bath. And I hope that I would leave behind children who are soleh & solehah enough to pray for my soul and guide me through the gates of Heaven.

Life is too short - too precious - too valuable to be wasted upon nothingness. Nothingness that comes in many ways - hatred, jealousy, abhorrence, etc.

Hence, from this day onwards, I will live, love and savour each moment that I have as if I'm dying tomorrow. For Abah, we hope that you are happy & peaceful now. Our thoughts, love and prayers are always with you. You have lived, loved and savoured your life in this mortal world like there was no tomorrow. And I would say, you have left behind a legacy that other people will remember for as long as we lived. You have touched our life and the life of others in so many ways that you can think of. With that, we thank you.

Al-Fatihah for Arwah Engku Abdul Rahman Bin Engku Chik Ahmad.
Son - Father - Brother - Teacher.

A Perfect Score

Today I received an email which makes me feel so proud of him. A snippit from the email:

'' Fahmi is always on top of his job. Recently someone new has been completing these requests, and while they were completed in a timely manner, the password and user ID were sent in the same email, which I believe is in violation of SOx compliancy. No one has ever had this issue with Fahmi, he is always extremely efficient, knowledgable, and accurate in completing the job. I can see him moving on to bigger assignments in the future because of his great work ethic and super attitude. Great job as always!''

I know he has always been doing an awesome job. Since our teams are working hand in hand, my first point of reference had always been him even before we had anything going on between us. I believe the rest of my team also feels the same way - a deep sense of trust: that he is very knowlegable and knows his area well. Today's email has proven just that point.

Super Kudos to my Fahmi.

What more can I say - apart from the fact that I have always been proud to be standing next to him even before, presently and in the future.

Marvellous job sayang! ;-)